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The Marie Equi Center is a health care and housing nonprofit for trans and queer people in Portland. In addition to addressing housing instability and gender-affirming care, the center hosts community events, such as a planned queer prom in their gym where guests typically shoot basketball to relieve stress.
NICOLE HAYDEN, LEE ENTERPRISES
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The Marie Equi Center in Portland used trauma-informed design to create a calming, safe and affirming space for the queer and trans people it serves.
NICOLE HAYDEN, LEE ENTERPRISES
Nicole Hayden can be reached at nicole.hayden@lee.net or at (810) 210-1561.
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